If you think this sounds socialist, decent sex ed would cut back on the problem all together...

I was reading an article today about teen mothers in Denver, Colorado who are fighting for the right to have excused absences after they give birth to bond with their children and recover.

I don't think high school girls who get pregnant should ever keep their children. Either abort, or if you aren't comfortable with that, arrange for an adoption. Keeping a child at that young an age is selfish and foolish and I intend to teach my daughters that they are NOT going to be ready to care for a child until they are financially independent and gainfully employed. It has nothing to do with age or marital status, it has to do with financial ability to care for a child independently without being a drain on society.

That said... If a girl DOES keep her child, we have to do something for her. Otherwise she'll just drop out of school, and thus, not be able to properly care for her child. Maternity leave is important for their health and the health of the child-- I would say two months after discharge from the hospital, with work packets to keep up with the course load; one month if she gives the kid up for adoption, to heal. Maybe get volunteer tutors to help, or something (And if they don't come back after that, treat it the same way you would treat a normal teenager who skipped school-- go after the parents). Then, have a childcare facility attached to the school, but, have the caretakers of the children in the daycare be a few supervisory staff members/teachers and then students, who are taking a class in parenting skills and childcare. A teaching daycare, basically. Provide a free service to the teen moms (and teachers) in exchange for a unique opportunity to teach students what it is like to care for children, under the supervision and guidance of professionals. That way, kids who take the class won't want to have kids for a LONG time and mothers can come visit their kids, breastfeed them, etc, during study hall and lunch (they could eat lunch with the kids). Teen dads could even come visit their kids and play with them.

And yeah, wealthier families would put the kids into professional daycares rather than have high schoolers care for them, but the point would be that there would be a chance for girls (or teachers) who can't afford regular childcare to have care for their kids. You could even have slots for children whose mothers are working adults in other jobs, but can't afford normal daycare, for a fee that is greatly reduced from the normal cost of childcare. Basically have the same idea as a teaching hospital, just have it be for childcare.

What do you think?

Is hospital birth traumatic?

I've read a bunch of stuff comparing home birth to hospital birth lately and I've been thinking about it a lot. The thing is, giving birth at home is higher risk. This is undeniable. Fetal mortality or injury happens more frequently. The data is there.

But at the same time... We have babies who are born who are GROTESQUELY deformed, who normally would not live through birth, and for good reason. Obstetrics often interferes with natural processes, and while it is the mother's choice if she wants to go to such extremes for an infant who will die soon anyway, or need massive surgery, or something, in this country the law says we have to save every child we can at birth. Home birth probably can be called more "natural" birth because deformed babies who shouldn't survive are less likely to.

And there is truth in the "traumatic" nature of hospital births-- many, many doctors are pricks who treat all their patients like idiots, and many OBs will severely disrespect the mother by, say, assuming she'll change her mind, or inducing labor when they shouldn't, or manhandling her. Should all efforts be made to save the baby? Yes. But there are a lot of processes that are done in hospitals frequently not because of the health of the mom or the baby, but because of convenience.

Episiotomies are a classic example. Most women don't need episiotomies. They might tear, but tearing will heal, and there are non-invasive methods to prevent tearing. Episiotomies should only be done if the vagina can't naturally stretch for some reason (like the birth is very, very fast), the baby is actually impeded from exiting, there is fetal distress (like his heart rate stops) and they need to resuscitate, or in some cases, if there's a breech birth (as in the picture at right, a footling breech). Many OBs do episiotomies to speed things along when they aren't needed, and what's worse, many of them used to sew up the vulva tighter than was needed, calling it a "Daddy stitch." I don't know how common that is today, though. Unnecessary episiotomies are a danger (of infection, of painful healing) that needn't be taken.

Many people describe "birth trauma" as originating from being touched or entered without direct consent. This one kind of bugs me, because how hard is is before the labor really gets going to say, "I may need to touch you in this way for this reason, in this way for this reason, in this way for THIS reason..." and then do a quick warning before actually touching? There was a story on the Navelgazing Midwife's blog about a woman who had a doctor put her hand up her vagina and into her uterus, without any sort of pain killer, with no more warning than "Brace yourself, sweetie, this is gonna hurt." Would it be so hard to say, "I need to do thus-and-such or you will have complications, and I have to put my hand up there, and would you like a shot? But I have to do it soon."

I mean, yes, there are times when things are happening too fast to really ask for permission every time you touch between the woman's legs, but not always. The least a doctor can do is not offer an epidural more than once until the woman asks for one (it's not just about doing it "naturally"-- I know, for example, that I will want to wait until I feel it is unbearable before I get an epidural simply because I don't like any meds that I don't really, really need), and neither allow the nurses to say disrespectful or manipulative things nor say them themselves.

They should really have a better code for OBs, more specific than the Hippocratic. There's a lot of things they do that they shouldn't or should do a little differently. Actually, gynecologists and ER docs in general need a better code for handling female reproductive systems, especially for rape tests, which if they are not done properly can feel very invasive. I can't remember where I was reading this (Feministing?), but someone was talking about a doctor who brought students in to see the pattern of bruising on her thighs after she was raped, despite never clarifying with her that that was okay, and tried to take pictures for the jury if she decided to go to trial. I was reading that and thinking, uh, why couldn't they cover her genitals with a cloth or something, and just take pictures of her thighs? It would still show the evidence without making her feel violated.

My feeling on home birth is it's okay as long as one accepts the higher risks, and those risks are made clear. I also think that direct-entry midwives (who require only on-the-job training and maybe a few classes) should have much stricter regulations and certification as such. And hospital birth should be done in a more delicate, caring manner. Women at that time are flooded with hormones, they need to have people who understand their emotional needs. And no doctor should ever treat a woman with less respect, consideration and care because she was a home birth transfer to the hospital after a complication.

And one more thing-- unless the baby is going to be put up for adoption or is in the NICU, the mother should get to hold the baby either right after the birth or the second she (the mother) wakes up. I'm of the opinion that it should be quickly wipe down, towel off, check for immediate problems and hand to the mother, or the father if the mother is under anesthesia at the time. That sort of thing rarely causes problems and means the world to parents.

Men's docs probably have similar problems with making men feel violated, like in proctology, but it comes up less often and I want to be an OB/gyn, so naturally I'm focusing on that issue.

To find out more, here's what I've been reading:

Navelgazing Midwife is a natural birth and home birth advocate and works as a midwife/birth coach.
The Homebirth Debate Blog exposes some of the dangers of home birth and the problems that come from home birth advocacy. Caution-- the writer is very anti-home birth. However, she cites real articles and studies so you can read those.